December Doesn’t Decide My Life — I Do.

The Power of Becoming Unavailable for Pressure, Comparison, and ‘Not Yet’

December has a way of turning into a scoreboard women never asked for.

Suddenly you’re measuring:

• what you did,

• what you didn’t,

• what you should’ve had by now,

• what still hasn’t arrived,

• what’s missing,

• what everyone else seems to “have together.”

The pressure doesn’t come from desire —

it comes from comparison, timing, and expectation all hitting at once.

And if you’re honest?

It’s not that you didn’t work hard enough.

It’s not that you didn’t show up.

It’s not that you didn’t decide clearly.

It’s that life still hasn’t caught up to what you authored months ago —

the relationship, the money, the stability, the ease, the holidays, the support.

That’s the part no one admits out loud:

The emotional weight isn’t “not being enough.”

It’s being tired of waiting.

You wanted to be booking flights by December.

You wanted to be in your relationship by December.

You wanted to feel financially held by December.

You wanted life to meet you where you already ARE.

Instead?

You’re staring at a reality that still feels late —

and you’re expected to smile through it.

Here’s the truth most women never hear:

**December doesn’t get to decide your trajectory.

It doesn’t get to grade your life.

It doesn’t get to declare what’s possible next.

And it sure as hell doesn’t get to define you.**

You do.

The most powerful move you can make this month is simple:

Become unavailable for pressure.

Unavailable for timelines.

Unavailable for emotional endurance.

Unavailable for the “should’ve been here by now.

Not by pretending you don’t care.

Not by forcing positivity.

Not by bypassing what’s real.

But by reclaiming the one place that pressure can’t touch:

Your decision.

And that decision doesn’t need to be grand.

It doesn’t need to be dramatic.

It doesn’t need to “shift your vibration” or “align your energy.”

It can be a single, quiet line:

“I’m not living by deadlines.

I choose my life now.”

Because here’s what actually changes things:

When you’re done performing for the calendar,

when you stop making yourself the problem,

when you stop taking score,

when you stop carrying what was never yours —

your world finally has room to move.

Not because you earned it.

Not because it’s “time.”

Not because you fixed something.

But because you stepped out of the pressure

and stepped back into your authority.

This December is not your judgement.

It’s not your measure.

It’s not your indicator of how next year unfolds.

It’s simply a month.

And you are the one who decides what happens next.

Live luminously.